February 8, 2023

Pinoy Trekker

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Stay on the right track: slow down and enjoy life

“I don’t want to arrive at the end of my life and find that I’ve only lived the length of it. I would also like to have lived the breadth of it. ~ Diane Ackerman

Wow! My last weeks of my career. Although many days and weeks have seemed like an eternity over the past 34 years, it is truly amazing how time flies so quickly. And don’t we often try to make it even faster?

Our jobs are stressful. We are often faced with tight schedules and deadlines. We have customers and employees who want and need things from yesterday.

We work in jobs over which we have very little control. Add that to our daily responsibilities as parents, spouses, partners, friends, children of aging parents, and last but not least, ourselves. That is much.

Maybe you’re like me. When I was younger I too often:

I wanted to fast-forward to a new day, week, or stage in my life I wanted some time off, focused on vacation months away, couldn’t wait for my kids to be older, had my eye on the next job directed that I sought through difficult circumstances I was facing or wanted to be where someone else was in life

what did it cost me memories and possibilities. I can’t remember many details when my kids were growing up because I was always thinking ahead. I wasn’t there at the moment.

I missed opportunities to learn and grow because I was always focused on the next thing instead of learning what could help me with that next thing.

I missed all the beauty this earth has to offer because I was driving too fast.

It cost me time. I wished away something I can never get back. It cost me the fun of the simple life, my life.

It took me sixty-five years on Earth to figure out how to count every moment. And if I’m honest, I have to work on it every day.

“Don’t focus on making every moment perfect, focus on the perfection each moment offers, good or bad.” ~Jenna Kutcher

Notice that I didn’t say, “Make every moment happy, productive, or memorable.” Just make it count. be in it. Live it.

There are many unhappy moments. In fact, they can be downright sad or exhausting. But at the same time they shape you and make you grow.

I missed many good moments in my life because I was too focused on making the ending happy or perfect to enjoy what was happening right in front of my eyes.

A few years ago my son and I met a good friend of mine. We started talking about our kids and how much fun it was going to all of their events when they were younger. I banged my chest bragging about being at all of their events.

My son challenged me. He said I was physically there, but I wasn’t really there. He told my friend I was always on the phone or otherwise busy. He was right. I was there but I can’t tell you about the goals they scored, the amazing moves they made or the songs they sang. It was like a dagger went through my heart. But it was true.

My dear friend Doug was telling me how he’s trying to live right now. He said, “Keep in the right lane.” I love it. We often want to get there fast, so we get in the left lane and zoom past everything to get there.

I’ve done that most of my life, in all areas of my life. As I’m starting to live in the right lane, I’m finding it easier to be more in the moment. i am intentional

I start my day with a routine of praying, journaling, exercising, and concentrating on not focusing on one thing or two but being amazed by the wonder of what might come my way. I intentionally take days off when I don’t have a set schedule.

Being more in the moment, I experience all kinds of beauty, joy, wonder, clarity, purpose, happiness and possibility.

If you look through my photo library, you will mainly see pictures of bugs, birds, flowers and trees from my walks. My mind has room to be creative and I am finding clarity about the things I want to do for myself at this stage in life. My relationships thrive because I’m actually there and really experiencing another person.

Being present has also allowed me to see myself more of who I am. I’ve said many times that I never felt good enough. I felt like I had to do more to be enough. Now that I have more clarity about who I am, I want to do more because I am enough. I realize that no matter what I do from now on, I’m good enough. Because of who I am, not because of what I do.

Many have asked me what I will do when I retire. Retirement is the end, so how will you live to the end? I see it more as a transition to the next stage of my journey.

I will continue to live on the right track, enjoying every moment, creating and experiencing new moments, and focusing on the journey itself, not the destination. I intend to live as Laurie Santos puts it: “Be happy in my life and with my life.”

“The most dangerous risk of all…is the risk of spending your life not doing what you want, betting that you can buy the freedom to do it later.” ~Randy Komisar

How you do that? It’s not always easy.

Have good self-esteem (know and trust yourself). be intentional Make time for the people and things that are important to you. Take the time to think about what you really want in life.

And slow down.

About Brad Jeffress

Brad Jeffress has been a salesman for most of his career. He then created a new position in his company as a Dream Coach. He helped employees work towards their dreams and also let them see and hear on a personal level. Now retired, he wants to help other companies create similar positions.

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